Nuh
On the Path of the Beloved
Episode 9 :
Dar
Al-Arqam and the negotiations with the disbelievers
In the name of Allah, the All-Merciful,
the Ever-Merciful. All prayers and blessings of Allah be upon our master, the
most noble Prophet (SAWS).
I would like to thank the volunteers of
‘Life Makers’ for preparing thousands of bags of meals for breaking the fast (Iftar).
May Allah (SWT) accept all their deeds and actions, and reward them for
it.
Someone sent a question on the website
regarding yesterday’s episode asking: Who won, the Muslims being tortured, or
the non-believers of Quraysh, who were
torturing the companions? In other words, did Sumayya or Abu-Jahl win?
Sumayya was killed by Abu-Jahl in a
horrifying way that he rejoiced. Similarly, Abu-Jahl was killed in the battle
of Badr. Who won then, good or evil? Without a doubt, Sumayya did. Think about
it, ultimately Sumayya’s belief was the strongest. Abu-Jahl was not able to
sway her therefore he had to get rid of her. The same applies to Bilal, and
Ammar, who witnessed his parents get killed on the hands of Abu-Jahl.
Many people these days believe that
everything is going wrong; evil is taking over, a fact we have to accept it in
order to survive. It is disheartening to observe that many people not only
steal and cheat, but also claim that anyone who chooses to do the right thing is
in essence weak. This is not true. We must educate our children that truth and
goodness always win at the end.
Please keep in mind that evil is very
limited. Good and evil are like a real and a fake currency. No matter how
widespread a fake currency is, its life-span will always be short because it is
after all ‘fake’. This is such an important concept which we must instil in our
next generation.
Tell your child: "If you cheat on a
test, son, you become a fake currency"
Tell those working in the media that by
showing what will ultimately benefit them and boost their profit, yet harm
entire generations; that they are choosing to be a fake currency. Mothers must
help get this concept to be recognized and implemented by our children.
Fraud, cheating, falseness, and deceit
will never last.
Back to our question, who won really;
Abu-Jahl or Sumayya? Sumayya died, yes. Abu-Jahl also died a shameful death at
the hands of two young Muslims. Yet, his evil could not last while Sumayya’s
strong belief in Islam outlived all evil.
Let us examine Surat Ar-Raad where Allah (SWT) says
what can be translated as, "He sends down from the heaven water so that
valleys flow, each to its determined (course), so that the flood carries away
(on its surface) a swelling scum. And from that on which they kindle fire (i.e.,
or) seeking (to make) ornaments or belongings, out of that there is a scum like
it. Thus Allah strikes the Truth and the untruth. So, as for the scum, then it
goes away as jetsam (i.e., vanishes as useless) and as for whatever profits
mankind, then it stays in the earth. Thus Allah strikes the similitudes".
(TMQ, 13:17).
Those beautiful ayahs teach us that
goodness that benefits mankind stays while the scum goes away. What a beautiful
Qur’anic image. Pay close attention to this important concept; all that is good
and benefits people always lasts on earth. Observe history, it teaches us that
no matter how much you win, selfish intentions and personal interests bring
about your end, while goodness survives to rule.
There was one more detail in yesterday’s
episode that no one seemed to note. Let us remember what the companions, and
the Prophet himself (SAWS), have been going through. They were tortured,
and humiliated in every shape and form. Remember Sumayya’s horrifying death
that could alone enrage an Arab’s sense of pride and honour? Nevertheless, we
never heard of a companion resorting to violence or revenge. Why is that? It
is because this approach is not on the path of the Prophet (SAWS).
Muslims are advised not to cause destruction or bloodshed in their lands and
communities. For example, the Prophet (SAWS) was very angry when he
heard that the companion Saad Ibn-Abi-Waqas got so furious that he whipped a man
once marking the first incident of blood-shed in Islam.
It is imperative to note that although
the companions were the ones being tortured, they were calm and composed.
Meanwhile, the non-believers were livid, perverse, and vicious. Compare this
to the common stereotype many have of religious people being constantly angry
and irrational.
Moreover, the three men who were
primarily handling the torture of Muslims were; Al-Aas Ibn-Wa’el, Al-Walid
Ibn-Al-Mugheera, and Abu-Jahl. However, their sons Amr Ibn-Al-Aas, Khalid
Ibn-Al-Walid, and Ikrimah Ibn-Abu-Jahl turned out to be among the best Muslims.
This proves that the tortured companions never opted for counter humiliation or
violence, though they had the right to, that the sons of their very torturers
became strong believers themselves.
Now we are in year 6 of the message with
great torture inflicted on the Prophet (SAWS) and his companions. What
did the Prophet (SAWS) do to lift his companions’ spirits? Many of the
companions were humiliated, tortured, or witnessed murder of their beloved. The
Prophet (SAWS) introduced a ground-breaking and incredibly innovative
concept; he conducted a training course for the companions to strengthen their
faith, lift their spirit, encourage unity, provide a safe haven to turn to, and
to give them much needed moral support.
Dar Al-Arqam Ibn-Abi-Al-Arqam was the
training centre for Muslims in Makkah for three years. Over 1400 years ago,
Muslims integrated this innovative approach of training sessions to handle their
situation; an approach which is only discovered recently worldwide. An
interesting question pops up, why conduct the training sessions in the
17-year-old Al-Arqam’s house? Why not at Abu-Bakr’s house? It was very astute
of the Prophet (SAWS) to select Al-Arqam’s house for Quraysh would have
never suspected it, due to the Al-Arqam’s young age. Al-Arqam’s house also had
a great advantage; it was constructed in the middle of Al-Arqam’s own tribe,
which offered the Muslims great protection.
One of the main products of these
training sessions is that the companions who attended them turned out to be the
ones who ultimately excelled, especially during the battle of Hunayn. They
remained steadfast with the Prophet (SAWS) when many others ran away.
The Prophet (SAWS) offered a
comprehensive training course which taught sublime values that included team
spirit, brotherhood, loving one another for the sake of Allah, purifying one’s
heart, striving to be close to Allah, loving one’s land and community, and
gaining a better understanding of world affairs.
These lessons were derived from Qur’anic
revelations such as:
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Team spirit was encouraged in Surat
Al-Asr (The Afternoon) where Allah (SWT) says what can be translated as,
"And (by) the afternoon! (Or: time). Surely man is indeed in (sheer) loss,
except the ones who have believed, and done deeds of righteousness, and enjoin
each other to the Truth, and enjoin each other to patience" (TMQ, 103: 1-3).
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Importance of awareness of world
affairs was promoted in Surat Ar-Rum (The Romans) where Allah (SWT) says
what can be translated as, "Alif, Lam, Mîm (These are the names of letters of
the Arabic alphabet, and only Allah knows their meaning here). The Romans have
been overcome (by the Persians). In the more adjacent (i.e., more easy to reach;
the Levant) (part) of the earth. And even after their being overcome, they will
overcome (the others). Within several years. To Allah belongs the Command ever
before and ever after, and upon that day the believers will exult" (TMQ, 30:
1-4).
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Establishing a solid connection to
Allah (SWT) and purifying one’s heart were promoted in Surat Al-Anaam
(The Cattle) where Allah (SWT) says what can be translated as, "And in
His Providence are the keys of the Unseen; none knows them except He. And He
knows whatever is in the land and the sea. And in no way does a leaf fall down,
except that He knows it, and not a grain in the darkness (es) of the earth, not
a thing wet or dry, except that it is in an evident Book" (TMQ, 6: 59).
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Companions learnt to love their land,
to exercise patience, and to avoid calls of revenge in Surat Hud that
illustrates the stories of the prophets and what they had to go through
stressing the importance of patience and endurance. Moreover, Surat Yusuf
(Joseph) that describes how Prophet Yusuf (AS) was wrongfully imprisoned,
yet how he agreed to help those who imprisoned him for the sake of his land and
people. We should try to learn from Prophet Yusuf (AS) who did not seek
revenge or retribution when he had a chance to.
Try to read the Qur’an in this light
from now on, learn from the lessons embedded in the ayahs. It is crucial to
remember that the Qur’an is timeless as its message never expires with time.
Back to Dar Al-Arqam, what do we know
about Al-Arqam but his house? Was there anything else mentioned about him?
What else did he do? What was he good at? At the time of the training course
Ibn-Al-Arqam was only 17 and he lived until the time of Uthman Ibn-Affan.
Nevertheless, what else do we know of him? Was he a military leader? Was he a
scholar? We know that the Prophet (SAWS) only selected people who were
unique, but what was unique about Al-Arqam? It is the house he offered and
donated for Islam that made him unique. That is why it is interesting to note
that many charity organisations in the Arab world choose ‘Dar Al-Arqam’ as their
name. Moreover, out of gratitude, when the Prophet (SAWS) immigrated
from Makkah to Madinah he bought a house for Al-Arqam there.
What have you offered to your
community, to Islam, and to your people?
Al-Arqam had nothing else to offer but
his house, and he did. What about you? Being actively involved in your
community should not be limited to charity work. It can also extend to
participating in the revival of your country through excelling in science,
technology, media, science, and education. This is when the pleasure of giving
surpasses anything else. It is when the giving is taking; extending your
life to that of every life that benefits from your benevolence.
Dar Al-Arqam is indeed an example that
should be followed in our nation to guide the young to new horizons.
It is interesting to note that right when the companions were
being harassed by Quraysh, Allah (SWT) reveals Surat Al-Mutaffifin. This
is an interesting timing, and one cannot help but wonder what this Surah has to
do with the current situation of Muslims. This Surah speaks of fair trade and
cheating in commerce where Allah (SWT) says what can be translated as,
“Woe to the stinters. Who, when they measure against mankind, (i.e., when they
take from others) take full (measure), And when they measure for them or weigh
for them, (i.e., when they give to others) they cause them loss” (TMQ, 83: 1-3).
Allah (SWT) is sending a message that development and revival are
not only through worship and prayer. Islam’s message is to fix everything in
the society through a comprehensive viewpoint that offers wide-ranging remedies
for ailments plaguing nations and communities.
Despite Quraysh’s desperate attempts to
stop the spread of Islam, the number of Muslims kept increasing that it went up
to 300, now that Omar and Hamza have embraced Islam. Furthermore, the fact that
Muslims were gaining strength filled Quraysh with awe that they had to contrive
a new plan. This new manoeuvre consisted of negotiations, temptations, and
bargaining
Some people can withstand torture when
struggling for their beliefs, but cannot stand strong against temptations.
Likewise, others can get easily confused and jaded in negotiations and lose
track of what they should hang on to. It is as if Allah (SWT) tested the
companions with all sorts of trials; torture, bargaining, and temptations, to
see how dedicated they can be. They actually remained steadfast to pave the
way for their personal success and for that of their great nation.
Before getting into this battle of wills
let us consider the situation carefully. Quraysh their bargaining partner is
supposedly strong, yet broke in essence for they have no ideology to enrich
them. Muslims, on the other hand, are supposedly the weak party, though they
are actually rich with their belief.
Quraysh learnt the lesson that physical
and psychological harassment does not deter Muslims, and this is how strong the
truth is? Truth, when combined with patience, comprise the ultimate successful
combination. Now, since harassment failed, what did Quraysh do?
Quraysh tried bargaining first with
Abu-Taleb; the Prophet’s (SAWS) uncle and strongest ally. The leaders of
Quraysh wanted Abu-Taleb to 1) Make Muhammad (SAWS) retract his message
or 2) turn him in. Their plan was to strongly pressure Abu-Taleb to give
Muhammad (SAWS) up.
The key leaders of Quraysh made several
impractical requests then actually threatened Abu-Taleb, who got very upset by
their words and threats to the point that he sent his son Aukeil to call the
Prophet (SAWS). It is important to note that Abu-Taleb was probably
intending to harshly warn the Prophet (SAWS), maybe even give him an
ultimatum.
When the prophet (SAWS) entered,
Abu-Taleb told him of what the leaders of Quraysh threatened him to do then he
said, "Save yourself and I, and do not ask of me what I cannot handle".
The Prophet (SAWS) firmly told
him, "By Allah, if they put the sun on my right and the moon on my left to leave
this matter, I would not, until Allah shows me otherwise or I die trying for its
sake"
Can any of us say anything similar with
such dignity, strength, or conviction? This is the best lesson in today’s
episode. I know many of you have memorised these words in the past, but can we
say them in such passion and fervour? Can you imagine the Prophet (SAWS)
turning down the dominion with all that the sun rises and sets on?
Can you announce "I will not leave my
message, Islam is precious and nothing in this world even comes close to it"?
After the Prophet (SAWS) said
that, he cried. This is how the Prophet (SAWS) combines both strength
and sensitivity all the while without offending his uncle. The Prophet (SAWS)
enjoyed true balance which allows him to experience both feelings. This is one
of the most amazing things about the Prophet (SAWS), his ability to
combine both in his heart. It is felt for instance when a loved one passes
away, when both feelings of grief over him/her and acceptance of Allah’s decree
merge in the heart.
Al-Fudayl Ibn-‘Eyad had a son who died
when he was only 10 years old. When his son died, people saw him smiling, and
he was a man who rarely smiles. Al-Fudayl was unable to balance both his
sadness and mercy for his son, with his acceptance of Allah’s decree. So he
decided to overcome the first and opted for acceptance. The Prophet (SAWS),
on the other hand, cried when his son died because he was able to handle and to
balance both.
Aren’t you proud to be a part of his
nation? Aren’t you proud to be on his path? Do you know now why we are calling
this show on the path of the beloved?
Back to Abu-Taleb and the Prophet (SAWS)
who was walking away when his uncle told him, "Go back, and do as you please,
for I will never abandon you"
To the youth, please learn from the
above situation and restore faith and hope to your families and parents. Many
families worry over their children attending religious lessons. The youth,
then, should be able to put their families at ease while staying firm to their
beliefs.
To the heads of families all over the
nation, although Abu-Taleb never became a Muslim himself, he was very supportive
and committed. Thus, if you have a family member defending the truth, would you
do what Abu-Taleb did and be there for him? This message also goes to those in
charge of ministries, and the media. Would any of you risk your social
standards, money, trade, or prestige for such a sublime intent?
With negotiations failing with
Abu-Taleb, Quraysh decided to negotiate with the Prophet (SAWS) himself.
The leaders of Quraysh chose to send ’Utbah Ibn-Rabee’ah to the Prophet where
he usually was, by al-K’aba. Note here how the
Prophet (SAWS) was actively present and involved in society, and not
hiding from or avoiding public life. Not only was the Prophet (SAWS)
interacting with his society, but he was also so with his surroundings; the
Prophet (SAWS) used to look at the moon, for example, and say, "Your lord
and my lord is Allah”. Therefore, as Muslims, we are open to feeling, relating
to, and communicating with the entire universe and its inhabitants.
’Utbah Ibn-Rabee’ah approached the
Prophet (SAWS) and started praising his lineage. He then confessed that
Islam has caused division in their community. Following that, ’Utbah offered
money, prestige, power, or marriage to the prettiest girl in Makkah, if that was
what the prophet could be aiming at by his message. He even offered to provide
medical treatment for whatever was ailing the Prophet (SAWS) and making
him propagate for this new belief.
Money, dominion, power, health
insurance, and beautiful women were all offered to the Prophet (SAWS).
If you were in his place, would you stand the test?
Throughout the negotiations, the Prophet (SAWS) was
extremely polite and civilized. He offered to listen to what ’Utbah had to say,
and he patiently listened to all that he said without getting offended by his
offers. An important lesson we learn from this is to listen to others and
respect what they have to say, since they will, in turn, listen to you.
After ’Utbah was finished, the Prophet (SAWS) started
reciting ayahs from Surat Fussilat (Expounded) where Allah (SWT) says
what can be translated as, "Ha, Mîm. (These are the names of letters of the
Arabic alphabet, and only Allah knows their meaning). A successive sending down
from The All-Merciful, The Ever-Merciful. A Book whose ayat (Ayahs, signs) have
been expounded, an Arabic Qur’an for a people who know, Bearing)
good tidings and a warning; yet most of them veered
away, so they do not hear. And they have said, “Our hearts are under lids
(literally: into lids) from what you call us to, and in our ears is an
obstruction, and between us and you (The Prophet) is a curtain; so do (according
to your belief); surely we are doing (according to ours).” Say, “Surely I am
only a mortal like you. To me it is revealed that your God is only One God; so
go straight to Him, and ask for His forgiveness; and woe to the associators, Who
do not bring the Zakat, (i.e., pay the poor-dues) and they are the ones (who
are) disbelievers in the Hereafter. Surely the ones who have believed and done
deeds of righteousness will have a reward bountifully unfailing.” Say, “Is it
true that indeed you surely disbelieve in (The One) Who created the earth in two
days, and do you set up compeers to Him?” That is The Lord of the worlds. And He
made therein anchorages (i.e., mountains) from above it, and He blessed it, and
determined therein its nourishments in four days, equal to the questioners.
Thereafter He leveled Himself (How He did so is beyond human understanding) to
the heaven (while) it was smoke, then said to it and to the earth, “Come up (you
two) willingly (Or: in obedience ) or unwillingly!” They (both) said, “We come
up willingly.” So He decreed them as seven heavens in two days, and He revealed
in every heaven its Command. And We have adorned the lowest heaven with lamps,
and (set Angels) preserving them. That is the determining of The Ever-Mighty,
The Ever-Knowing. Yet in case they veer away, then say, “I warn you of a
(stunning) thunderbolt like to the (stunning) thunderbolt of Aad and Thamûd"
(TMQ, 41:1-13).
As the Prophet (SAWS) was
finishing the last of the ayahs ’Utbah put his hand to the Prophet’s mouth out
of true fear that what the ayahs were promising will take place as he was
profoundly moved by the ayahs.
Abu-Sufyan could tell when he saw ’Utbah
coming back that something has changed about him. ’Utbah repeated what Al-Walid
Ibn-Al-Mugheerah once said regarding the beauty and grandeur of the words of the
Qur’an. ’Utbah said that they were words unlike any he had ever heard before,
words that were neither poetry nor magic. He then advised the leaders of
Quraysh to leave Muhammad (SAWS) alone for he predicted that Muhammad (SAWS)
will be a great figure in the future. ’Utbah tried to reason with them saying
that they should let him deliver his message to all other tribes. In case he is
killed, then Quraysh will get rid of him, and in case he wins then Quraysh,
being his tribe, will share the victory with him. However, the leaders of
Quraysh suspected that ’Utbah fell under what they claimed to be “Muhammad’s
spell” and thus refused to follow his advice.
Let us ponder on why the Prophet (SAWS)
did not accept ’Utbah’s offer of ruling Makkah. He could have accepted and
being the king of Makkah, the companions would rule the land and make Islam the
ruling religion. Nevertheless, the Prophet (SAWS) did not accept because
the goal of having an extending Islamic nation does not justify such means. How
would that have affected our view of the way Islam spread? Aren’t we proud of
how Islam freely and justifiably spread without force? The Prophet (SAWS)
did indeed plan his response with wisdom.
The seven leaders of Quraysh who formed
Dar Al-Nadwa, what we may consider today a parliament, decided to pay the
Prophet (SAWS) a visit and to negotiate with him one more time. The
Prophet (SAWS) said to them, "I did not come to take your money, nor did
I come to be your leader, nor do I want dominion among you, I only came to
deliver a message to you from the Lord of the worlds. If you accept, then you
are blessed in this life and the hereafter. And if you refuse, then I will be
patient until Allah decrees between you and I”.
May the peace and blessings of Allah be
on you Muhammad.
Today we learnt many valuable lessons,
among them:
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The importance of the truth, faith,
challenge, persistence, and kindness.
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How to acquire manners of speech and
negotiations.
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Strategic planning of actions and
responses.
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The importance of training courses.
We can plan several sessions on each of
those.
Now that temptations failed, they tried
another approach asking him who is the better of the three Muhammad, his father,
or Abdul-Mutalib. Their point was that if the father and the grandfather are
better, then why abandoning the Gods they worshipped. On the other hands, if he
claims that he is better than his father and grandfather, then he should state
that clearly so that they let every one know.
The Prophet (SAWS) left without
saying a word. The lesson here is to know when to speak and when not to.
Sometimes it is best not to be provoked and speak. The Prophet (SAWS)
walked away from them reading Surat Fussilat.
All the approaches of the leaders of Quraysh failed. Nothing
is left but negotiations. They actually offered to worship Muhammad’s God for
one day while he worships their Gods for another. Surat Al-Kafirun (The
Disbelievers) was revealed where Allah (SWT) says what can be translated
as, "Say, “O you disbelievers, I do not worship what you worship, Nor are you
worshiping what I worship, Nor am I worshiping what you have worshiped. Nor are
you worshiping what I worship. To you is your religion, and to me is my
religion!”" (TMQ, 109: 1-6).
Remember, the truth can not be put down,
or compromised.
The leaders then negotiated entering
Islam as long as the poor Muslims leave the religion as it is not befitting of
them to be members of the same religion as Bilal and Ammar Ibn-Yasser who used
to be slaves. Allah (SWT) then revealed verses refusing the offer and
stressing the need to accept Islam for what it is and with no conditions. This
is a religion of fairness and freedom; no one is to be kicked out of it.
Their next strategy was to ask for miracles in order for them
to believe. They asked Muhammad (SAWS) to ask his Lord to grant them
rivers, or to send them one of their grandfathers from the dead, or an angel to
vouch for the authenticity of the message of Islam. Allah (SWT) says in
Surat Al-israa’ what can be translated as, “And they have said, “We will
never believe you till you make a fountain to gush forth from the earth for us;
Or (till) you have a garden of palms and vine (s); then you make rivers to erupt
forth amidst it abundantly (Literally: with “all manner of” eruption). Or you
make the heaven to fall down, as you have asserted, on us in lumps, or you come
up with Allah, and the Angels and their (dependent) tribes.
Or you have a home of wonderful decoration, or you ascend
into the heaven, and we will never believe your ascent till you keep sending
down on us a book that we (can) read.” Say, All Extolment be to my Lord! Have I
been anything except a mortal, as Messenger?” (TMQ, 17:90-93).
The Prophet (SAWS) refused by
saying "I am not one to ask my Lord that ". Miracles were present in Islam to
strengthen the belief of the believers and the Prophet (SAWS), and not to
convince people to enter Islam.
It may seem that the Prophet (SAWS)
has refused all that was offered to him, but that is not the case. The Prophet
(SAWS) made an offer to Quraysh, an initiative to join "Fudul
Alliance" where the alliance members support individuals or groups treated
unjustly. Thus, the Prophet (SAWS) is teaching us to be proactive in our
community.
Let us end this episode with the
following important points:
1.
Be a real and an authentic currency,
not a fake one.
2.
To the elders and influential figures
of the Arab world, side with the truth like Abu-Taleb did.
3.
To the youth, work for the revival in
all fields (economic, charity, technological, etc.)
4.
Training is an important value that
we urgently need.
May the peace and blessings of Allah be
upon you all.
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